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I Just Want To Be There

I wrote this song back in the mid 1980’s. The songs lyrics are about my grandfather, Theodore Chen, who was of failing health but he had not yet passed away. On this web site somewhere is a version of me playing the song on my guitar. Since I know my limitations, I asked a friend of mine to rearrange the song, and also give it professional production values. I think it turned out great. More to come. I am hoping that we can work together to redo all of my songs. Here’s the first one.

D              A    E
People running all around this world
D         A      E 
Trying to make a dime
D      A           E
I just wish they'd open their eyes
D         A      E
Like I've opened mine
A                        D
Sitting here knocking on heaven's door
A                       E
Waiting for the Lord to come
A              D
I just want to be there Lord
D      A   E
To see the Son


   D           A    E
My grandfather is a great great man
         D         A      E
But he's getting a little old
D      A       E
I just need to love him more
       D   A     E
As the age takes hold

      A                  D
Cause one day soon he'll leave this world
  A                E
I pray it won't be long
A              D
I just want to be there Lord
         D    A   E
When you make him strong


D              A    E
People running all around this world
D         A      E 
Trying to make a dime
D      A           E
I just wish they'd open their eyes
D         A      E
Like I've opened mine

A                        D
Sitting here knocking on heaven's door
A                       E
Waiting for the Lord to come
A              D
I just want to be there Lord
D      A   E
To see the Son


D                A         E
Let me tell you about this boss of mine
D          A       E
Making our lives a hell
D           A    E
Sometimes I just have to laugh
   D    A  E
He does it well
    A                   D
But one day there'll be judgement day
A                       E
Looking the Lord in the face
A              D
I just want to be there Lord
        D      A   E
When he pleads his case


D              A    E
People running all around this world
D         A      E 
Trying to make a dime
D      A           E
I just wish they'd open their eyes
D         A      E
Like I've opened mine


A                        D
Sitting here knocking on heaven's door
A                       E
Waiting for the Lord to come
A              D
I just want to be there Lord
D      A   E
To see the Son

My Ordeal with the American Consulate

It has been close to a year since this happened, but I found some of the letters that I sent to a few lawyers regarding my and Solange’s experience with the American Consulate. After the event, I sent this letter to several lawyers for help. No help was forthcoming, although their fees were growing. I finally ignored all of the lawyers advice and got Solange a tourist visa on my own.

September 11, 2006
A Day I’ll Never Forget

It all started in July 2006. I was with some friends in Sao Paulo, Brazil, and I wound up in the hospital in a coma. I had a severely broken arm, pneumonia, a concussion, amnesia, and I could no longer talk. Stranger yet, no one knew how all of this happened. My mother and my brother flew down from the United States to bring me back to the US. Once I returned, I gradually recovered but I realized that my recuperation would be a long one. I believed that I needed my fiancée with me immediately. I met Carol Armstrong from Senator Elizabeth Dole’s office and she tried to help me get Solange (my fiancée) an emergency visa. After two weeks of wrangling with the American Consulate, she was rudely denied.

I decided to return to the Brazil. This was not an easy decision because I would rather talk to doctors that speak English, but on the other hand, I needed someone to take care of me as I recovered. Plus I missed Solange. So I returned back to Brazil and on August 30th, and Solange and I married in a small civil ceremony in Rio de Janeiro.

All along, I had been talking to Carol Armstrong about the next steps to get Solange a visa to enter the United States. In addition, a friend of mine works for a huge law firm called Holland and Knight, and he began giving me advice. The advice was the same. The quickest route was to work with the American Consulate in Brazil, and to convince them that I live in Brazil.

I called the consulate and scheduled an appointment for September 11, and Solange and I got to work. We began compiling all of my financial records as evidence of how much money I was spending in Brazil. We created a history of every telephone call and telephone number I had called and received from my Brazilian telephone numbers. We had the deed to my apartment and of course my passport. In addition, we filled out the forms for the green card process. Solange also took all of the medical exams necessary for entrance into the United States. We worked for two solid weeks to get everything done,. we had filled out all of the forms perfectly, and put together an open-and-shut case that proved that I live in Brazil.

Despite all of the preparation, we woke on September 11, 2006 with nervous anticipation. It was a beautiful sunny day, which we both hoped was a good omen of things to happen. We jumped into a taxi and the cabby was half asleep. He got lost and kept falling asleep at the wheel. Although we left with tons of time to spare, Solange was becoming nervous that we would be late for the appointment. Fortunately, the driver woke up and we arrived at 1 pm on the dot.

We got to the front of the line, and we quickly gave the embassy guard our names. She looked through her list three or four times, and said “You don’t have an appointment today.” I told her (in Portuguese) that it was impossible that I could mistake September 11 for some other day. I asked whether there was someone to whom I could complain. She looked at me apologetically but she still said no.

We were thunder struck. After all the work, all the planning, the problems with my health, and now we couldn’t even talk to the Consulate. The guard suggested that we call the Consulate on a pay phone. The Consulate has a rule that you cannot enter the Consulate without an appointment, and you cannot make an appointment at the Consulate. So I bought a a 45 minute payphone card for and called the Consulate. I had been through this drill many times, and the wait times were sometimes close to an hour, and I was nervous that we would run out credits on the pay phone. After 30 minutes, thankfully, someone picked up.

The woman explained that I had made a mistake and that I had scheduled the interview for September 8th. I politely explained to her that it was impossible that I would mistake September 11th for some other day. And she politely explained that I was wrong, and that perhaps we could reschedule for a week for now. I was getting mad now, and I explained that I was standing at a pay phone outside of the Consulate and this was not my fault and they should let me in. She put me on hold, and with 5 minutes of credits left, they allowed us to enter the Consulate.

Once we were in the waiting area, our wait was fairly short. We both nervously entered the interview room and closed the door. Our interviewer was blonde, heavy set, tall and with a blue blouse and skirt. Solange guesses her age to be about 35 years old. She asked whether we would prefer to interview in English or Portuguese, and I said English although in less than 30 seconds the interview switched to Portuguese because it was clear that she could not speak English. It certainly made it more difficult for me because she spoke Portuguese very quickly but I was holding my own.

During the interview process, she asked what type of visa I had. I responded that I had a tourist visa but I really lived in Rio de Janeiro. During the entire interview, I tried to have a calm and even tone. She did not. At this point, she went ballistic, and starting yelling at me. She started calling me names including a criminal, stating that I was in Brazil illegally. Although I felt this was not true, I chose not to argue with her, and calmly and slowly tried to show her the reports that we had compiled. This just made matters worse. Each piece of paper I showed just made her angrier. She was so agitated that the security guard came by to see what was happening. I said many times “Stop yelling at me”, and “Please let me talk for a second.” She did not heed either request, and continued to yell and interrupt.

As a last measure, I tried to explain my health problems and how I felt that it would be best if my wife and I could return to the United States. At this point, she was totally disgusted with me and said “That’s your problem not mine.” At that point, she stood up and left.

We both left the interview room shaken. My head was reeling from all the verbal abuse. My gut was stinging from the fact that I chose to repress my feelings to yell back at her. To be clear, at no time did I raise my voice, and never did I provoke her. To be honest, we have no idea why she was so agitated at us. It all seemed like such a waste. We had spent weeks compiling documents and she didn’t look at any of them.

I was ready to go but Solange said that we should stay. At one point, the crazy lady, also known as our interviewer, was yelling that we should see the consulario. I had no idea what this meant, but apparently, it meant that after her verbal thrashing, we would talk to her boss. We waited about an hour, and then our name was paged and we were brought to a different interview room.

The next lady had black hair, petite, and slightly older, let’s say late 40’s and early 50’s. She sat down, and immediately was more pleasant than the yelling woman. She spoke perfect English, and it was clear that she was an American. I did not revisit our prior ugly experience, and chose to focus on the facts related to Solange’s visa application. She listened but explained that it was illegal for her to accept my application. I told her that I had discussed my situation with more than one lawyer in the US and they did not believe it was illegal. Of course, that was a big mistake and put her on the defensive. To her credit, at one point, she left the interview room, and later returned. She then reiterated that it was illegal, and said that I needed to go through the United States Department of Homeland Security. Although she still said No, at least she was not belligerent.

I am writing this a little over three weeks after this horrible day occurred. I am still in Brazil and still hoping that somehow Solange can learn about the United States before we make some of the larger decisions in our lives. A lot of the bitterness and emotion of that day has passed, but there are still two nagging questions in my mind.

1. When we were returning in the taxi from our day of horror, Solange told me that she was treated the same way during her first interview in August. Yelling and lecturing. I fully realize that there are times when our consulate has to say no. That is part of their jobs. However, it serves no purpose to be rude and antagonistic.

2. Perhaps the crux of this issue is who is right? I went to the Consulate based on the advice of more than one lawyer. If the Consulate believed I was under their jurisdiction, they could help me. The American Consulate felt that helping me was illegal. Frankly, it does not make sense that my request is illegal. I am an American citizen needing help. Either way, I believe the government should clear up the confusion, so others can avoid my horrible experience.

Building a New House

I made a lot of mistakes on my first house in South Dakota although I paid a really good price for it. I wanted to share with everyone a few thoughts on other things I learned from building my second house in Myrtle Beach.

Things I did right:

  • Put the kitchen in the middle of the house. This was one of the principal concepts of my house. The kitchen should be one of the biggest rooms in the house, and it should be placed in the center of the house. There is one minus is that because it is in the center it has three entries into it and the big loser is cabinet space. That said, I have plenty of cabinet and counter space for my needs.
  • Another key concept was three porches. It is really enjoyable to go outside during the day and hang and now with wireless internet it is even better. Plus I wired two of the porches for stereo sound. You have to think this through because you also have to figure out where the source of the sound will be. I connected them both to the stereo in the living room. One of the porches is screened and also has a ceiling fan. This porch is great when it is pouring rain outside, also on a hot summer evening. Also the porches have ample electric outlets do you can do virtually whatever you want.
  • Huge living room. I do not like the concept of the formal living room, but wanted to have a very nice living room with a big television/entertainment center as the center piece. I also wanted it to be open to the kitchen so one can watch television /listen to music while doing dishes. Another great thing that I did was to put surround sound speakers into the ceiling of the living room. They sound great and don’t take up any space. Note: surround sound now supports 8 speakers instead of 6 having two side speakers.
  • Master bedroom. I did a lot of good things here. I put the speakers in the ceiling for surround sound. It turned out great. I love surround sound because you don’t have to have the stereo up loud to get the full range of sound. Again, I put the rear speakers in the ceiling. The location of the bedroom is very important. In my case, I put it on the west side of the house so the sun does not enter into the room in the morning. It’s a big plus.
  • The loft. This is essentially a huge bonus room and it turned out perfect. It still has a lot of flexibility to turn it into whatever I want in the future. I am considering making it my office so the kid(s) can’t bother me when I’m working.
  • Gas fireplaces. They are awesome and just the right thing on a cold day without any of the mess of a log fireplace.
  • Solar Tubes. I put four of them in the loft and I wish that I put more. The reason is that they are really bright on a sunny day, and provide tons of light. More than regular light. They are inexpensive and make a nice touch.
  • Good fixtures. Don’t use anything that won’t wear well. No linoleum or formica. For all my counters I used a composite that is reasonably inexpensive but lasts well. My house is now 9 years old but everything has lasted really well unlike my house in South Dakota.
  • 10 foot ceilings. It was one of the first things that I identified and it definitely gives the downstairs a totally different feeling than a regular house because of the ceilings.

Things I wish I did differently.

  • I put the master bedroom too close to the kitchen. When I have visitors, the first place they go is the kitchen and sometimes they wake me up.
  • The cabling for entertainment center downstairs has proven to be tricky.
  • Thermostats – It is a big house and there are four heating/air conditioning systems. The thermostats work great but one is a little too complicated to use and sometimes I am scratching my head
  • Built ins in the closet – I think this is going to be a trend in the future. You can economically put in a built in dresser, mirrors etc all in the closet
  • I wish that I had wired all three porches for sound instead of just two and placed ceiling fans on all three porches.
  • I wired the house for Cat 5 but not in all rooms and not in all the right places. Now that we have wireless it is easier but still you should still think through where you want all the desks to be and PC’s and try to put a Cat 5 connection.
  • One of the big compromises that I made in the house was that I cut 2 feet off the width of the house which impacted the master bedroom and the master bathroom. I really regret pulling those square feet out.
  • I never use the formal dining room, and I wish that I had never put it in. If you are looking to save space, this is a great thing to knock out and perhaps a little more into the breakfast room where everyone ends up eating anyhow. Even now, both Solange and I eat at the bar and use neither dining room tables.
  • My parents room is huge but now well thought out. The reason is that the bed goes up against the windows too tight. I should have done the closets differently and I would have gotten a lot more livable space.
  • Made a little faux pas on the pool table. Make sure that you have plenty of space on all sides. It is playable but I wish that I had put another foot all around the pool table.
  • I think that we are going to see a new trend in the future. Built ins in the closet. Built in cabinets are cheap and then you can make all of the space in the bedroom living space. I wish that I had done that.
  • Outside irrigation. My yard has many dead spots and when it is dry (like now) it does not cover the lawn well. Make sure you check thoroughly their plan and also have some flexibility to change it in about a year.
  • I saved a bunch of money using something called hardy plank on the outside. It looks great and wears great. I only wish that I had put more brick on the front of the house to give it a little more imposing appearance when entering. The back of the house looks great.